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Creating Your Own Performance Evaluation System – Part 2 in the Learning How to Win Series

September 30, 2018 by Scott Del Mastro Leave a Comment

In Part 1 of this series I discussed the relationship between confidence and winning and concluded that building a habit of winning is best developed by using the Scientific Method and proposing a hypothesis (game plan) each time you go out to compete. Once a hypothesis is created the next step is to improve your ability to coach yourself, to see what a coach would see and then make the necessary simple adjustments to your game plan that will allow you to perform better as you go.

Learning how to better understand why you performed the way you did during your performance takes time and needs a basis of comparison – a standard by which to compare how you performed to how you would have like to perform; hence, the development of your own Evaluation System. So, how would you like to perform? Try this simple exercise to find out:

Visualization Exercise

STEP 1
Identify your Ideal Performance State (IPS) using visualization to remember your best performances. For the purpose of this exercise, just pick one performance that stands out among the rest. In the future you can use the same process for any performance that you remember.

STEP 2
Understand what visualization is. Simply, it is focused daydreaming. Closing your eyes and remembering as many details from a past performance that you can and learning to see them in even greater detail.

STEP 3
Find a quite relaxing place. Sit in a comfortable chair making sure that your posture is straight and your arms are relaxed and resting on your legs.

STEP 4
Close your eyes and bring your attention to your breathing. At first, just pay attention to how you are breathing normally; how the air comes into your nose or mouth and how it exits. How your chest rises and falls with each breath.

STEP 5
Use a 3 count breathing technique to focus your breathing even more. Inhale through your nose for 3 seconds. Hold that breath for 3 seconds. Exhale that breath slowly through your mouth for 3 seconds. Repeat 10 cycles or until your attention is completely on your breathing and your body is more relaxed.

STEP 6
Breathe normally and shift your attention to the location of where your best performance occurred. Review, in detail, specific elements of the location. What city was it in? What did the surroundings look like? What were the courts, course, or field like? What were other conditions of the playing environment? Did they play fast or slow during your performance? What was the temperature that day? Etc.

STEP 7
Shift your attention to being on the court during the performance and ask yourself a few more questions. What were you wearing that day? How were you feeling – excited, calm, happy, nervous, …….? What was your heart rate during the performance? What was your breathing tempo – short quick breaths, or slow deep breaths?

STEP 8
See yourself performing. You chose this past event as one of your best. You need to bring your attention to the things that happened in this performance that caused you to select it as your best, and then seek to understand why they helped you play your best.

That is basically it, using visualization to identify the elements that caused your best performances. Once you understand the things that help you perform your best, then it is simply a matter of repeating those elements again and again (see Part 3 in this series on rituals and routines) to achieve the performance state that you want.

Often, it can feel, for the inexperienced athlete, that ideal performances are random, and in the beginning phases of competitive development, they can be; but as we develop our abilities and get closer to mastering our skills we realize that our best performances are not random, they are managed and calculated. And when we allow ourselves the freedom to enjoy what we have trained so hard to do we learn that playing in the ZONE, as someone has termed it, is not out of our reach.

The goal is to train ourselves to be completely present in our performance. To pay attention to when our mind drifts to things that hinder our performances and don’t help us stay present; and not to fight ourselves when things don’t go the way we expect them to go, but rather use the Experimental Method as described in Part 1 to quickly reset, and pay attention to what happens next.

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Part 3 in the “Learning How to Win” series will focus on establishing rituals and routines that will help us repeat our best performance over and over again.

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What Comes First Confidence or Winning? – Part 1 in Learning How to Win

July 7, 2018 by Scott Del Mastro Leave a Comment

Do you remember the age old adage about the chicken and the egg? Isn’t it the same with confidence and winning? They both fit into the category of a paradox that leads to a path of confusion. And although the mind puzzles are thought provoking and a fun conversation with friends, my contention is that they are a waste of time to think about, when there is work to be done.

Yet the word confidence and its meaning have been correlated so heavily with winning and losing that it is almost a mainstream postulate (fact) that people rely on to describe why they performed the way they did. Almost as if it were an accepted variable in the formula of success – Confidence + practice + fitness conditioning + strategy + experience + luck (luck is a whole other discussion for another day) + other = winning/success.

Let’s look more closely at the conundrum of confidence as it may relate to the outcome of our performances. Even Marrium-Webster has success tied to confidence in their first two definitions of the word:

1. a feeling or consciousness of one’s powers or of reliance on one’s circumstances – had perfect confidence in her ability to succeed

2. the quality or state of being certain : certitude they had every confidence of success

I would like to offer a different approach to winning and success, one that does not lead, typically, to a provoked emotional response when things don’t go the way you expect them to go – the experimental method.

The prime method of inquiry in science is the experiment. The key features are control over variables, careful measurement, and establishing cause and effect relationships. An experiment is an investigation in which a hypothesis is scientifically tested.

So then, the key is to understand what a hypothesis is.

a supposition or proposed explanation made on the basis of limited evidence as a starting point for further investigation.

Therefore we must make a game plan (hypothesis) based on variables that we know about a situation or opponent, add in what we know about ourselves (strengths and weaknesses), create a system of measurement and evaluation, take a deep breath and then “grip it and rip it” as my coach used to say. In other words, just start playing and see what happens, evaluate the cause and effect of what happens, adjust, readjust, stick to this process and navigate your way to improvement and success every time you play.

Please comment below with questions and or feedback from your own experiences….
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Part 2 in the “Learning How to Win” series will focus on how to create an evaluation system that takes the focus off of winning and places it on the process of winning.

FUTURE DISCUSSION:
– Performance Evaluation Systems
– Game Plans
– Expectation Management

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Faith Without Fear?

July 23, 2016 by Scott Del Mastro Leave a Comment

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The Story of Fear & Faith

The script notes below outline a particular scene that many of us have faced before. As the story develops more is revealed about how fear challenges our faith, and how we must learn to use fear as a way to get closer to God.

Imagine this scene…

Back Story

  • Character believes in God
  • Concept of faith is firmly in place in their mind
  • Concept of trust and surrender is understood, but not realized
  • Character genuinely wants to be closer to God and is continuing to look for ways to do that

Setting

  • Scene is set in open water with tossing waves which illustrates life’s constant struggles
    Scene

  • Opens with character struggling to keep head above water on the verge of drowning, but there is still fight left as evidenced by the feverish thrashing for survival.
  • Character appears not to know how to swim…

Plot lines

  • Opportunity to be faithful
  • Strength of faith
  • Fear’s role in faith
  • Now – present moment training
  • Courage

Questions

  • What could be going through the mind of the person caught in this struggle for survival?

The story begins…

How many times in your life have you been the one in this scene, the one that is struggling to keep their head above the water either literally or more often than not, figuratively? For me it is almost every single day, and more recently almost every single moment. However, what I am realizing is that this is part of the process, this is part of the plan that I must endure and follow to get closer to God.

You might know easier ways to get closer to God, and I believe you, I just have not figured out for myself yet how to do that – to reach the depths of God that I have reached without having gone through the struggles that have defined me and my life. But hey, that’s how it has been working for me, I’m up for suggestions though, as it seems smarter to bypass the struggle if possible, so comment and give me some ideas, please?!?!

Anyway, like the character in the script above, I often find myself overwhelmed with life’s challenges, even though my faith is in tact, life’s constant face slaps, groin kicks, etc. keep challenging my decision to be faithful. Which begs the questions that actor Morgan Freeman stated in the movie Evan Almighty when playing the character of God. Take a look….

I don’t know how you interpreted this scene, but for me it is the crux of this post, struggle is opportunity, and how we interpret struggle or the challenges that we face determines how we will respond or not respond – swim or sink. To me, faith has much to do with how I interpret and respond to my challenges, and my own fears, doubts and worries seem to constantly lead me to question my faith or more specifically, to questions God’s promises. Just like Peter in Matthew 14:22-33 (NLT).

…for a strong wind had risen, and they were fighting heavy waves. About three o’clock in the morning Jesus came toward them, walking on the water. When the disciples saw him walking on the water, they were terrified. In their fear, they cried out, “It’s a ghost!” But Jesus spoke to them at once. “Don’t be afraid,” he said. “Take courage. I am here! ” Then Peter called to him, “Lord, if it’s really you, tell me to come to you, walking on the water.” “Yes, come,” Jesus said. So Peter went over the side of the boat and walked on the water toward Jesus. But when he saw the strong wind and the waves, he was terrified and began to sink. “Save me, Lord!” he shouted. Jesus immediately reached out and grabbed him. “You have so little faith,” Jesus said. “Why did you doubt me?”…

Jesus walks on water, by Ivan Aivazovsky (1888)
Jesus walks on water, by Ivan Aivazovsky (1888)

So I ask you, can there be faith without fear?

Above are two examples of situations that fear through worry, in the case of the woman speaking to God, or being afraid in the case of Peter, separate us from God, or at the very least distract us from being faithful, which illustrates how fear and faith seem to be intertwined. But God also states through John in 1 John 4:18 NLT.

“Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.”

So then, the key is to search for ways to experience his “perfect love”. Because the implication of this passage is that if we are in his perfect love fear will not be in our mind. I interpret this as a promise, a truth, such that fear can be conquered.

In another movie, After Earth, Will Smith delivers a line that says “…danger is real, fear is a choice”, which helps me to understand that I can choose God’s love and not be afraid – it is a choice that can be made. It is a promise, and all we have to do is decide to choose God’s love.

In the end, there may be simpler more direct ways to forgo the struggles that I constantly seem to go through in strengthening my faith, but I am still learning that struggle and challenge are part of the process, and I don’t need to be afraid of them, but rather, use them to remind me to lean on God’s promises and choose to love him wholeheartedly right now, in the moment that the fear sets in or the struggle begins. Those struggles force me to stay right there in that present moment, right there with God. All I have to do is choose God and I will not be afraid.

So, I leave you with this from Joshua 1:9 NLT:

“This is my command – be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.”

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